Well this week was definitely not my own. Like the saying goes, "when it rains, it pours." I am completely exhausted dealing with a call I received last thing on Thursday from Kaplan's Financial Aid saying that my account will be locked soon because of some balance that mysteriously showed up from out of no where (I HAVE 4 WEEKS LEFT OF SCHOOL). My daughter had plans to see her father that as usual fell through and completely crushed her (she's so vulnerable and only 16 and her dad has NO clue how it is important to be active and consistent in her life) and lastly my "ex-fiance" made a breakthrough in therapy and just had to bare his soul to me in hopes that we can move forward and be together. Oy Vey!
So now, I was not able to enjoy ANY of the holiday weekend festivities and am so behind in all my school work and back to being overwhelmed and riddled with anxiety. Oh, did I mention my cousin passes away unexpectedly (stomach pain that turned out to be a ruptured bowel thingy).
Practicing these exercise and assessment process, I have
discovered that before taking any action in whatever situation you might find
yourself one should analyze the situation before taking action, measure every detail
do what feels best and appropriate.
One area that I have chosen to focus more is dealing
with my teenager, be VERY VERY patient and breakdown every issue, and know that
she is only 16 and the only thing I can do at this moment is (communication)
talk to her and reach out to professional help. I do think that seeking out for
professional help once again would lead to a better understanding of how to
maintain a good relationship with my daughter.
Most of the time I feel frustrated and distress when
I see my child does not see the risk and consequences on many of her actions and
ways. The practice I would exercise
would be the UNIVERSAL LOVING-KINDNESS this exercise will help me grow and
develop empathetic listening, seeing things the way she sees things and develop
sensitivity, with this healing I would be helping myself to be able to help my
first born child
Loving-Kindness (meditation) exercise
The exercise is simply just a form of focus, broadening our minds to think about others, putting our bodies and minds at ease to be unselfish and to realize that there is a good of being kind-hearted to all.
I discovered something about myself in participating in this exercise, that I am fully able to be compassionate and considerate of others and I am able to wish them well with their lives.
Integral health Assessment
This assessment is to focus on reaching integral health. You must rest in stillness within your entire self, then figure out the source of difficulty and/or suffering. After the difficult aspect has been pointed out, bring all your focus and attention to it, figure out a goal to achieve in regards to the source of difficulty and take aim for it. Do this for as much time as needed to build it up and make it a strength.
After we are able to return to stillness and recenter ourselves to focus on integral health rather than healing, I have found an area of my life that is ready for growth and development. This area that really stands out to me is direction. I constantly want to go in all different directions and I am always finding new things to start before I have completed the previous things all the way. This will take focus and I will have to maintain this focus in order to achieve this right path in life. Specific activities to help accomplish this task would be to practice on relaxation and focusing. In order to focus fully on something, you can not let it act as a stressor, or else you may want to push it to the back of your mind, or try and get rid of it. Maintaining a relaxed state can assist to better staying focused and staying on that right path for direction.
The exercise is simply just a form of focus, broadening our minds to think about others, putting our bodies and minds at ease to be unselfish and to realize that there is a good of being kind-hearted to all.
I discovered something about myself in participating in this exercise, that I am fully able to be compassionate and considerate of others and I am able to wish them well with their lives.
Integral health Assessment
This assessment is to focus on reaching integral health. You must rest in stillness within your entire self, then figure out the source of difficulty and/or suffering. After the difficult aspect has been pointed out, bring all your focus and attention to it, figure out a goal to achieve in regards to the source of difficulty and take aim for it. Do this for as much time as needed to build it up and make it a strength.
After we are able to return to stillness and recenter ourselves to focus on integral health rather than healing, I have found an area of my life that is ready for growth and development. This area that really stands out to me is direction. I constantly want to go in all different directions and I am always finding new things to start before I have completed the previous things all the way. This will take focus and I will have to maintain this focus in order to achieve this right path in life. Specific activities to help accomplish this task would be to practice on relaxation and focusing. In order to focus fully on something, you can not let it act as a stressor, or else you may want to push it to the back of your mind, or try and get rid of it. Maintaining a relaxed state can assist to better staying focused and staying on that right path for direction.
Peace & Blessings
T.
Hi Teddi,
ReplyDeleteI am really sorry to hear about your cousin. In this day and age it is hard to understand why a condition like this was not caught earlier. Sorry for your loss.
I am also a single mother. I am thankful my ex did make attempts to spend time with my son. My son would often cry after spending a weekend with his dad because he missed him. It is heartbreaking to watch, but I think letting them express their feelings is important. I think therapy can help children navigate their feelings.
I am glad to hear the loving-kindness exercise was helpful to you. It was quite challenging for me.
Interesting about your ex-fiancé. How are you feeling about his revelation?
Remember to take a deep breath (or several) and take time for yourself. Have a good week. :-)
Cynthia